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This weekend is our second wedding anniversary.

Two years since this.

Two years since the best day.

Two years since that face-splitting grin.

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I don’t know what our future holds, I don’t know what else there is to learn, I don’t know what tough times or amazing times, or difficult times or happy times lay ahead of us, but what I do know is…

I know why double sinks are the dream.

I know what it’s like to spontaneously burst into a fit of giggles together for no reason and not be able to stop.

I know what it’s like to hear/see something and already know to the word, the joke he’s about to say about it. (so predictable!)

I know why couples argue in IKEA.

I know what it’s like to hear something and want to tell him about it so much that you have to call or text or email right that very second so you don’t forget.

I know what it’s like to still be surprised at his kindness and thoughtfulness.

I know what it’s like to still be frustrated about things he does that I can’t change.

I know what it’s like to still feel loved, no matter how disgusting I look or feel.

I know I want him to stick around with me.

I know what it’s like to marry the one you love.

I know what it’s like to still have that face-splitting grin.

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I talk about our relationship a bit on this blog and as a result it would appear that we are this super happy, cute and wonderful couple. And we are, most of the time.

But.

We’re not all of the time. And I would never want anyone to think that. Because it’s not real. I get grumpy and lazy, he gets unsociable and sullen. We argue, about silly things like toilet-roll usage and putting rubbish in the bin – and about more important stuff – money, friends, family, values. However, the arguments are nearly always resolved quickly and we apologise to each other when we’re wrong. We both feel like we’re on the same team, we trust each other, we encourage each other to grow and we try (some times more easily than others) to accept each others flaws. The other day I was chatting to a friend about relationships and said something off the cuff like “oh relationships are so complicated” and then immediately realised, our relationship isn’t complicated. It isn’t perfect either, but it just feels right.

Ben, on our wedding day I made you a promise, to never to think that we are perfect, invincible, or that we know it all. I swore to keep trying, and keep learning, and keep adventuring with you, in order to make our marriage work. I promised, above everything, that I will always have your back, that I will always be your biggest fan, that I will always put your name down on the “Who to Contact In Case of Emergency” form. I promised that I will try my very best to make this marriage work, to make it flourish and make it the best decision of our lives.

Ben, thank you for choosing me. I love you.

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You can read all about our wedding here and because I’ll take any excuse to show it off, here is our wedding highlight video made by my very talented brother!

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Big, soppy wedding, love,

Laura

xoxo

I love an infographic. I really do. If everything could be explained to me via the medium of the infographic, I would be most pleased.

Therefore, when I saw this one on the Simple Things blog, which by the way is genius, I was intrigued. There are some interesting statistics in here, and some that have made me think. There’s also a lot of common sense in there (i.e. the most successful marriages are those built on friendship, communication and being nice to each other!) But also, when reading it, please remember that this is ON AVERAGE and doesn’t mean right or wrong. I have friends and family with all sorts of relationship set ups and if it works, then great! Just be nice to each other if you can.